People allegedly was hard to smile. But those that are difficult to smile, probably because he was not happy. We can avoid that people in the world is have further decline.
Setback which he means not involving the rapid follow fashion, cars and building a house or building, but within a matter of courtesy and manners.
Perhaps the people are already starting to lose its ability to simply give a smile. Try you notice the faces of the office in a private car, in city buses and other public transportation. Surely seen the faces tense, gloomy, indifferent, if not sleepy.
Luckily he did not have a rating similar to other cities that had visited. In small towns, he found excessive friendliness, because there are people who even want to guide it to the destination.
NOT HAPPY
What makes a person, let alone a society, become so hard to smile? And smile, according to psychologist DR. Matindas Goddess, is the first sign that someone is ready and open to accept others.
Without a smile it will automatically give the impression to others that we are not ready to interact. Might be you will think like this “Is it possible because I’ve seen a foreigner, so they no longer received with friendly?”
Smile difficult problems can be traced from whether a person feels his life happy or not. People who are happy, the burden of his soul becomes lighter and easier to express the smile from his heart.
“Although people were optimistic, not realistic, for example in people who have principles, ‘I was poor materially, but life is it not just a matter of matter’, then this person’s life will be happier. Compare this with people whose views realistically. ’I did have a big salary, but I need too much.’ This kind of person would feel his life was not happy. Then he will be hard to smile. How can smile if not happy?
NOT AVAILABLE STANDARD
What makes people unhappy is also mixed. However Patchouli take great care in a matter that often requires him the right person, perfectly, in accordance with standards established for himself. If circumstances or situations deemed to be incompatible standards, he cannot accept, and therefore not happy.
For example, Sonny had a standard that he would be happy if his career success. Size of professional success if the ride BMW. So long cannot buy a BMW, Sonny was not successful, and therefore do not feel happy. ”Whereas other people can be happy only with a smile,” he added.
In interpersonal relationships, if someone had a standard that, as a man of honor, important people, famous people, bosses and so on always getting the attention and service, so do not expect he will be smiling when not getting attention, let alone have to serve. Including serving people who asked to address, or retrieve his own money in the bank!
People also are not happy if you experience emotional disturbances, including mild emotional disturbances neurotic type is characterized by anxiety. Sources of emotional disorders are mental stress, which can be obtained from the remnants of the mental pressure in childhood, role demands, the demands of work and so forth.
Forms of Aggression
Not just hard to smile, In daily life are often encountered people who prefer to put expression silent (silence and no response which allows the communication). In people like this, obviously, there’s no smile at all. They even avoid eye contact, so no need to respond.
In the book Coping with Difficult People by Robert M. Bramson, Ph.D. explained that his silence was motivated by various reasons. As in several other species, unresponsive attitude is a way to overcome the situation that allegedly has the potential to bring misery, hardship, or inconvenience.
For people who are not responsive, reticence has appeal as a form of aggression. If someone wants to control or hurt people who want to talk, there is no way the safest except silence. People can be very frustrated, disappointed, angry looking face was stony silence.
Reticence for some people also used to isolate themselves. Responded with a smile or talk, it means opening themselves up to the concrete situations that may not be pleasant. Letting others puzzled, for people who are not responsive, is considered more secure than open up.
Considering all that, perhaps we could ask ourselves. It’s been so difficult was it our lives, so it must be silent and to smile even been difficult? For the smiles we do not need to wait for happy, because we can be happy with a smile. Do not believe? Try it!
Author: WID | Source: Healthy Lifestyle